For being a step-mother, that is... and right now I am questioning my parenting. Rose's behaviour is taking a toll on me very much. I'm still sick with some gastro flu thing going around and I had to deal with her tantrum this morning, on the way home from school again, and now she's asking for her shoes... ones that were taken away because they were too small and she won't leave them alone.
And another thing is on my mind, that I feel so freaking ashamed of on one hand, and so pissed off at my mother, and questioning staff at this place...
Ok so my son who is 3 1/2 is going to school next year and the early years center here (basically a place for mothers and parents and children to go, they offer various free programs and educational tools) offers a once a month readiness program.
Well origionally, today would have been the day for this month. But a month ago they called and changed it. To next Monday. I had both times written in my book forgetting to mark off today. But I didn't realize this until he was returned. And a month ago is a long time when you deal with as much as I deal with, every day is a new challenge here.
So I was sick with whatever it was yesterday and am not back to myself, not feeling well at all but better a little today. So I arranged for my mother to take my son in to this program today thinking it was happening. I even called this morning to let the person know who runs it, my mother would be taking him, since normally it's me and I stay in the other play room or sometihng in the building since it's a half hour bus ride and it's pointless to leave. So my mother shows up and takes him and I think all is well and enjoy some relaxing time.
Well she brings him home on time, but that was when I found out what happened!
She tells me nothing is going on in the room I told her to take him, someone in the staff told her to go to another room, and she just leaves him there! So he was there for an hour and a half with a total stranger, another mother who just happened to be there with her child! And this mother, obviously not impressed, blasted my mother out.
So I find out when she brings him home. 1) I am pissed that no staff told her it was not happening, and that no one called me today. I called this morning, and ALL the regular staff know at this place who Darien is and who he is with normally, he has been going there almost every month since he was a baby for one program or another. They have all my contact information for when the program is running. Why did no one think to call? Did no one check the messages this morning? Did no one see my mother leave without him? 2) Why did my mother leave him there knowing nothing was happening? Why didn't she ask a staff member about it when she saw no one in the room? 3) I feel responcable just as much as I should have marked it off in my book, or noticed when I looked ahead a week it was there and questioned it more. I know it's only once a month. I would have known it was wrong and called about it and spoken to somoene. I should have called again this morning too, about my mother going, talked to someone instead of leaving a message. It would have been on my head if something happened to him today. Thank goodness he was home safe and sound, and even ate his snack I sent with him, and thank that mother for watching him, whomever she was, and not just leaving him off to play on his own the whole time.
So my question is, what would you do?
I am never trusting my mother to bring him to anything like that again, from now on I am going myself, staying there and picking him up myself, like I do any other and every other time. Or at least Chris. This is the second time something has been cancelled and we showed up anyways, only last time, it was a public play group and it was cancelled due to weather, but no one called at all. I just can't figure out why no one called me!
On top of that we got a 4th call about Rose from school concerning her lunch. She ate almost the entire thing at snack time. I sent a sandwich and 3 different types of fruit snacks (apple sauce, appricot halfs and a fruit bar). Well she ate all but the fruit bar at snack, or hid it or something, so she would get pizza at lunch time. We took pizza days away from her because she wasn't behaving and she does this! It's like I said, the 4th time this school year she's pulled this stunt. Plus she tells me she has her mitts in her backpack this morning when she does not. She was sent home with someone else's on again. So sick of the lies! And the tantrums! And making me out to be the bad parent here when I am the one who parents here more then anyone else.
I need a vacation, time away with just my OWN children, without Chris and Rose. But there is no way I could make it happen without putting us into financial crisis or something, or having a huge fight with Chris.
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